Simply defined, grief is the normal and natural reaction to significant emotional loss of any kind. While we never compare losses, any list would include death and divorce as obvious painful losses. Our list also includes many others; heartache, retirement, moving, pet loss, financial and health issues, etc. The range of emotions associated with grief is as varied as there are people and personalities. There is no list of feelings that would adequately describe one person’s emotions, much less an entire society. Grief is individual and unique. As every relationship is unique, so are the feelings and thoughts each person will have about the relationship that has been altered by death, divorce, or for other reasons.
While grief is normal and natural, most of the information passed on within our society about dealing with grief is not normal, natural, or helpful. Grief is the emotional response to loss, but most of the information we have learned about dealing with loss is intellectual. The majority of incorrect ideas about dealing with loss can be summed up in six myths which are so common that nearly everyone recognizes them. Most people have never questioned whether or not they are valid. The misinformation is best described in the following Six Myths: time heals all wounds, grieve alone, be strong, don't feel bad, replace the loss, and keep busy. Just looking at the myth that "time heals" creates the idea that a person just has to wait and they will feel better. We have known people who had waited 10, 20, 30, and 40 years, and still didn’t feel better. And, we know that they would tell you that not only had time not healed them, but that it had also compounded the pain. The other five myths carry equally unhelpful messages.
Recovery from loss is accomplished by discovering and completing all of the undelivered communications that accrue in relationships. We are all advised to "Let Go," and "Move On" after losses of all kinds. Most of us would do that if we knew how. Completion of pain caused by loss is what allows us to let go and move on. It is almost impossible to move on without first taking a series of actions that lead to completion. Before taking the actions to complete, it is important to look at and often dismiss some of the ideas or myths that we have tried to use with loss, but which are not working. If you have experienced loss and you wish to move beyond the pain, this program offers you the probability of a richer and more rewarding life.
Our special pet loss services are geared towards recent mourners of animal loved ones. Pets are members of our families. We understand the great amount of care and unique connection that is shared between a human and their pet. The amount of quality time and experiences we share with them can make us feel like we are losing a companion. From scrapbooking to walks to group grief support, Warm Hearts pet services can provide you with the methods and support to ease the loss. When it comes to emotional support, we've got you covered.
Robert lost his dog, P.J., when he went on vacation and left P.J. with friends. As the friends were painting their house, they left the door open a crack and P.J. escaped. Robert was distraught. He felt powerless and guilty for having left P.J. in the first place, even though there was no way he could have predicted or prevented what would happen. Through Warm Hearts pet loss support, we helped Robert and his family cope. We contacted the proper authorities, posted on Facebook groups, hung up flyers, and did all we could to make sure Robert felt active in searching for P.J.
We live in desperate times, in a society of uber standards. When sadness comes to you, we are here to help you learn from it rather than close your eyes and run from it. Emotional weight can sometimes feel like carrying a backpack full of rocks. It comes from a place of brokenness, but we won’t let you become emotionally exhausted. We want to help you repair the pain, walk through the pain, and find that healing so that your lives can be more productive.
Your song of lament can be a beautiful experience. Listen to your pain and suffering; acknowledge it, and you can transform your life and replenish your soul. Grief is life changing but it can be ultimately beneficial, for with the help of others you can learn peace and your heart becomes more tender. Get ready to begin an incredible journey through our uplifting services. You will be left feeling empowered and complete!